Posted in Bite size learning, coaching, Goals, motivation

Set “real” goals…

If you have set some goals for January make sure they are realistic.  Goals that are too big can be incredibly inspiring until you don’t meet them and then they can be more demotivating than motivating.  The fall out is much greater, ensure you stick to the bounds of reality.

Goals are assisted by healthy habits and rituals.  Every goal should have bite sized steps to lead to the big goal.  A daily ritual that gets you ever closer to the ultimate, will be far more motivating.

You need to surround yourself with the right people.  Negative  or toxic energy from people who doubt whether you will achieve your goals will drain the positivity leading you to the achievement.

Focus on your overall well being, a good nights sleep is vital, so therefore ensure you don’t look at your phone or tablet before bed.  The messages you receive you take to bed, but scientifically the blue light will reduce the sleep-inducing hormone melatonin.

Get started on those ‘real’ goals.  Author Jodi Picoult said the importance of avoiding perfectionism perfectly “you can edit a bad page, but you can’t edit a blank page”.

Most importantly get organised, avoiding touching things two or three times.  Everything has a place, have systems and processes in play that lead to your goals.

Make your goals visual, look at them everyday and then they will become reality.

For a goals workshop, please contact bev@nuggetsoflearning.co.uk

 

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Posted in Bite size learning, coaching, Goals, Leadership, motivation

Why goal setting matters…?

 Harvard Business School Goal Story

In the book “What They Don’t Teach You in the Harvard Business School”, Mark McCormack tells the story of a study conducted on students in the 1979 Harvard MBA program. In that year, the students were asked, “Have you set clear, written goals for your future and made plans to accomplish them?” Only 3% of the graduates had written goals and plans; 13% had goals, but they were not in writing; and a whopping 84% had no specific goals at all.

10 years later, the members of the class were interviewed again, and the findings, while somewhat predictable, were nonetheless astonishing. The 13% of the class who had goals were earning, on average, twice as much as the 84% who had no goals at all. And what about the 3% who had clear, written goals? They were earning, on average, ten times as much as the other 97% put together.

Write your goals down for 2018 or speak to nuggets about a workshop on goal setting.

Please contact bev@nuggetsoflearning.co.uk

Posted in Bite size learning, coaching, Emotional Intelligence, Goals, Management, Time management

Unlocking time…

Time is a non spatial continuum it does not exist and yet we are forever referring to it as if it is a commodity. “I never have enough time” or “I don’t know where the time goes”.

If we evaluated are own behaviours associated with time, it might begin to explain are association with it.

Pause and answer the following questions:-

  • What did you do with the last hour in work yesterday?
  • How do you feel about time today?
  • If you had an extra hour what would you do with it?

The last question has to be answered by saying something you would do specifically and sleep is not allowed as an answer.

When we look at these questions we need to decide whether we are controlling time or is it controlling us.

The last hour at work, were you in charge, or were you working on other peoples work or were you tired and unproductive.  This review of the last hour is quite enlightening as to how you are managing your priorities.  The last hour ideally should be spent getting yourself ready for the next day.  Take time to write down what you want to achieve tomorrow.

How do you feel about time today? This is time to recognise the quality of time and enjoying the hours you have.  Being pro-active in your mindset about how you will spend it and the value you will get from it.

The extra hour  is  identifying, what matters most in your world.  We often answer the question with something that is linked to what we value in life.  Spending time on our mind, body or with our loved ones.

Please do get in touch to book a workshop on managing time

bev@nuggetsoflearning.co.uk

 

Posted in Bite size learning, Change management, Emotional Intelligence, Goals, mindfulness

Review of the year

To make the best of 2018 we have stop and ask questions about the year that has just passed.

Take time to think about the answers to the following questions:-

  • What were the 5 best days in 2017?
  • List 3 achievements in 2017
  • Who were the people in 2017 who cared and supported you?

Creating a plan for 2018 is easier once you have the answers to 2017:-

  • Holidays that you are going to take, where and when?
  • 3 Big goals that you are going to undertake
  • Days and events that you would like to happen (might be replicating some of your best days in 2017)
  • Ask yourself how do you want to feel in December 2018?
  • Who are the key people you need around you in 2018?

The exercise is best done visually by using post-it notes so that you create a picture of both years beside each other.

We control our own destinies, make 2018 a fantastic year.

For a workshop on goal setting or personal impact please contact bev@nuggetsoflearning.co.uk

Posted in Bite size learning, Goals, Stress management, Time management

Getting “stuff” done

Your best work gets done when it needs to be done, you have to want it and be ruthlessly intolerant.  With clear priorities and focus you work on the right things at the right time.

Only YOU are accountable for getting “stuff” done.  We find it easy to set monetary targets however we need to give the same priority to time targets.  Unproductive people have no idea where their money has gone.

Success is about our behaviour and how we manage the time we have.  Your goals and your achievements are compatible to your behaviour.

Each week think about what you want to achieve and put that as the heading of the week.  Achievement underpins motivation and having one big goal for the week, will be you identifying what matters most that week.

David Allen’s book, Getting Things Done describes the process.  If we can put all of our stuff in buckets, nothing gets lost and it is out of your head and into a system.

The buckets:-

  • Daily – the to do list, only what you can do that day (be realistic)
  • Weekly – what is the biggest thing you want to achieve in the week
  • Monthly – headings that give an indicator of how effective you were in the month
  • Annually – year to view on one page, with your holidays and key dates
  • Projects – present and future so that everything is captured

Please do get in touch for a practical approach to Time Management bev@nuggetsoflearning.co.uk 

Posted in Bite size learning, Decision Making, Emotional Intelligence, Goals, Relationships, Stress management, Time management

Getting ready for the “C” word…

The “C” word being Christmas.

The countdown to Christmas begins this Friday and it is like any other project it needs to be managed and the focus of what it means to you, must not be lost.

Stephen Covey’s time management exercise “What matters most” is a great way of looking at Christmas.  Covey invites delegates to squeeze big rocks into gravel.  The big rocks represent “what matters most in life” and the gravel is just “stuff” e.g. work.

The only way the exercise works is to put the big rocks in place first and then pour the gravel on top.   Delegates have been known to sweat profusely trying to squeeze rocks into gravel.  This feels uncomfortable and to be honest is how life feels when you lose focus on the things that matter most.

Focus on Christmas and work back, ensure you are spending it with the people who matter most and get all the “stuff” into perspective.

We have all done the Christmas Eve shop and regretted it afterwards when the person you care about most is surprised and disappointed.

The biggest rock at the moment is Christmas, so therefore make it your priority.

Please do get in touch for workshop on Time Management bev@nuggetsoflearning.co.uk

 

Posted in Emotional Intelligence, Leadership, personal impact, Relationships, Stress management

Resilient Pink…

The media is awash since the Harvey Weinstein of abuse cases and how do you determine the line that people cross.

My own experiences has measured my thoughts around appropriate and inappropriate.

In my early 20’s I went for an interview to work with a very well successful businessman.  With hindsight this first introduction to him should have been a warning of what was to come, the level of control.  I was asked to wipe off my lipstick (my trademark bright pink).  This felt very odd, and I had lots of time to reflect on this instruction as I was left in a room for a very long period to wait for the “big man”.  Looking back I think I was being watched and the whole situation was a test.

I got the job without the lipstick which I was still advised to hold back on.

The prestige of working for the company and the man himself let me initially enjoy the situation.  It became apparent that it was not business as normal.  Five secretaries to one PA, could easily tell you that we were just ever slightly over manned.

We would be rewarded with money for carrying a brief case, however in the process the wandering hands went too far.  Sex toys would be placed on our desks to see our reaction, and I was particularly naive.

I left after  6 months and the first thing I did was make sure my lipstick was brighter than ever.  The resilient pink continues and I know where the line is for me.

I ask myself would I want my daughter to be humiliated and lose confidence due to an individual who believed fame and money would protect him.

Arriving at meeting last week there was lots of banter about whether we could greet each other with hug.  I laughed with the group, however I was delighted that there is now thinking around personal space.  My own example is somewhat extreme, however there are levels within everything and there is always a line to cross or not to cross.

We can create a better place and be resilient with or without pink lipstick.