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Love & Fear


We watched Frank Skinner on demand, who said he had heard somewhere that there are only two emotions love & fear…

At first I was thinking don’t be ridiculous we have a raft of emotions and that is what makes us human.  However most emotions you have can be categorised between the love and fear scale. On further investigations I found the quote below from Elisabeth Kubler-Ross:-

“There are only two emotions: love and fear. All positive emotions come from love, all negative emotions from fear. From love flows happiness, contentment, peace, and joy. From fear comes anger, hate, anxiety and guilt. It’s true that there are only two primary emotions, love and fear. But it’s more accurate to say that there is only love or fear, for we cannot feel these two emotions together, at exactly the same time. They’re opposites. If we’re in fear, we are not in a place of love. When we’re in a place of love, we cannot be in a place of fear.” Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

Working with a Client last week I saw how valid this quote is from Kubler-Ross, loving your job and equally fearing that you will be found out.  I still often feel that we are all pretending – “playing offices” – the fear of being found out can override the love of your job if you don’t manage your emotions. Relationships are formed on a platform of love and fear, and getting the balance between the two is possibly the most successful and effective.  Too much love might lead to complacency and the fear that they might leave makes you try that little bit harder.  We should have the same healthy mix with our employers and clients. Both are consuming and powerful and we can deploy as much or as little as we desire. Measure your love and fear for the week, and see where is the healthiest place for you to be. Please do contact for further details on workshops and coaching.

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