When you wake up in the morning decide where you are on a scale, if pain was one end and power the other end – where would you want to be?
The answer is that most of us want to be the power end. Life events can drain our batteries, so keeping a metric of where you are and working out what it tells you can be a practical step to measuring your resilience levels. For a month keep a pain to power tracker and see what patterns emerge.
We can also think about what Mindset do we wish to adopt. Professor Carol S Dweck says that people either have a Fixed Mindset or Growth Mindset. The power of being able to say “not yet” is the Growth Mindset.
|Growth Mindset||Fixed Mindset|
|I can learn anything I want||I am either good at it, or I am not|
|I want to challenge myself||I don’t like to be challenged|
|When I fail, I learn||When I fail, I am no good|
|Tell me I try hard||Tell me I am smart & have natural ability|
By adopting a Growth Mindset we have the elasticity to be resilient and bounce back.
Recognising our sign symptoms of when we feel our resilience levels are low can also be a very practical tool. We can do this by using five main areas:-
- Sense of purpose – reason or focus for your work
- Mental toughness – the ability to make decisions
- Physical energy – tired constantly
- Emotional balance – the ability to regulate our emotions
- Social skills – make others feel comfortable
Ask yourself have you noticed any of these areas being harder than normal, these may be indications that your resilience levels are low.
Susan Kobasa a leading psychologist says that there are 3 key elements of a resilient individual:-
Challenge – view any difficulty as a challenge
Commitment – committed to their lives and goals
Personal Control – spend time and energy on stuff they have control over
The last statement aligns with Stephen Covey’s Circle of Concern/Circle of Influence. We should only focus on the concerns that we can influence if not we should let them sit outside our heads and make them a “no concern”.
Finally in summary what key things can you be doing to develop your resilience:-
1.Learn to relax
2.Practice thought awareness
3.Edit your outlook
4.Learn from mistakes and failures
5.Choose your response
7.Set yourself some goals
8.Build your self confidence
9.Develop strong relationships
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