Posted in Bite size learning, coaching, Emotional Intelligence, Relationships

Winning behaviour…

I was delighted to deliver a workshop called “Winning  Behaviour” to England’s Nets Team.  We were hosted by Ben Hanny at the Furniture Union who are sponsoring the Co Captain Natalie Miller.

It was such a privilege to work with a sports team, as we so often reference sport with our workshops and to have an actual team was amazing.  The team are due to leave for the World Cup this weekend in South Africa.

The game Nets is relentless as the ball is in constant play, however the team also need resilience of living and working together for a concentrated period of time.

The workshop had the following objectives:-

  • Understand what winning language sounds like
  • Recognising behaviours that are acceptable and unacceptable
  • Identifying motivators and demotivators

I used the metaphor of a family holiday, concentrated time together and emotions will be running high so agree upfront what is acceptable and unacceptable.

To create the environment they would all feel comfortable in, we used headings on flip charts for all of them to identify what they would like to be doing.

  • Play
  • Make their day
  • Be there
  • Choose your attitude

This comes from Pike Fish market in Seattle who created a place where selling fish could be fun and rewarding.  They labelled this the “Fish Philosophy”.

There were many other areas discussed, my highlight was explaining how to manage their own motivation.  I explained how you have a choice to wake up in “Pain” or “Power” however along the way we have people and situations who will hijack or lighten your mood.  The team need to be aware of what they consider an “Enhancer” and what is deemed a “Toxin”.

The team were very open with their thoughts and feelings and their was already respect for each other in their sporting team role.  After the workshop they now have respect for each other as people and value each others individuality.

Business can learn from taking time out and enjoying each others company without being in their role.

Please do contact bev@nuggetsoflearning.co.uk for a team workshop.

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Posted in Bite size learning, Change management, coaching, Emotional Intelligence, Leadership, mindfulness

Out of the Maze…

The follow up to “Who moved my cheese…?” has arrived, and what perfect timing for me personally and for the world in general.

For those of you who have not read the bestseller “Who moved my cheese…?’ the theme is that cheese is a metaphor for what you want to have in life and the maze is where you look for what you want.  The book emphasises the need to adapt to change and move with the cheese.

The new book asks the question what if you don’t know where to begin.

The central character is locked by the fact change has happened and the belief that things will never be the same.  However he meets the character “Hope” who says “Maybe they can turn out better than they were…”

We have beliefs that we get locked into and they can hold you prisoner in a mindset.  A belief is a thought that you trust is true, which can be either hold you down or lift you up.  Therefore you can change your mind if you choose a new belief.   You must not become the belief, you are the person who chooses your beliefs.

This links very closely to the work of Carol Dweck who talks about giving our children a growth mindset and not a fixed mindset.

An example:- if you have a belief that you are bad at public speaking  you will never put yourself in a position to speak.

If you change the belief that you are good at speaking in small groups, therefore you will be just as good public speaking.

The book “Out of the maze…” goes even further by saying – there are no limits to what you can believe.   You can simply change your mind by having new beliefs.

Sometime we have to believe before we can see the result so that we get into the right frame of mind.

An example:- believe you can sell your business before you have put it on the market and then you will do all that is necessary to get it ready to sell

On the journey to get out of the maze the character had to lose old baggage which is a metaphor for old thinking and beliefs.   We often on the journey have to seek out the very things we have always avoided.  Explore what has until now always seemed impossible.

The reflections at the end of the book, put it very succinctly “The Maze I need to get out of? is my own thinking”

Please do get in touch for a 90 minute workshop bev@nuggetsoflearning.co.uk

 

Posted in Bite size learning, coaching, Emotional Intelligence, mindfulness, personal impact, Stress management

Being kind to yourself…

We are responsible for our actions and our decisions and ultimately how kind we decide to be to ourselves.

My day had a bumpy start, I was about to board a train when I remembered I had not put a pen in my bag.  I did a very bad Mum run to WH Smiths at the station and managed to make the train.  Felt quite smug that I had turned things around.

The desperate need for the pen was to make notes on a book on my kindle.  Sat back and retrieved the kindle to find it was out of charge.  Still not deterred used my iPhone to create the kindle app, but failed to remember my amazon password.  I wasted most of the journey with failed attempts and the ultimate lock out message.

When I arrived at Waterloo I decided to walk to my meeting as I needed to be kind to myself, after my rather unproductive train journey. The walk in the sunshine and along the South Bank in London was great for putting me in a lovely mood for my meeting.

When something goes wrong think of a way to be kind to yourself by doing something you will enjoy.

Of course you don’t have to be kind to yourself when something goes wrong, just make it a habit everyday.  Write down when you have been kind to yourself as focusing on ourselves does have restorative effect for the rest of life.

Please do get in touch if you are looking for a business coach bev@nuggetsoflearning.co.uk

Posted in Bite size learning, Change management, coaching, personal impact

Become more original…

Original ideas drive creativity and change, a sudden inspired thought a flash bulb moment.

Ironically Adam Grant’s TED Talk says that “Originals” people with creative ideas are normally procrastinators.  They are slow to start and their opposite precrastinator the person who dives straight in with an idea, might not be that original.

Moderate procrastination allows divergent thinking to occur.  The “Panic Monster” of the precrastinator just comes up with one thing.  Putting an idea to one side and then revisiting gives you new insight and thinking.

Famously Martin Luther King worked on his speech into the early hours and on the morning of his address.  At no point was the line “I have a dream…” on the first script.

If you look back at products and services that were the first movers they are not always the best.  Facebook was able to learn from MySpace and Google learnt from Yahoo.

Being original is about having idea doubt and not self doubt.  Change the dialogue in your head, the first ideas are not the best but that does not mean you are not the best.

We should always doubt the default and take initiative to look for a better option.

Original thinking is about fear of failing to try not the fear of failing.  The biggest regret is no action, it is too important not to try.  The more output you generate the more likely you are to hit on original ideas

Motivate yourself by doubting your ideas and think of lots more ideas.

Please contact bev@nuggetsoflearning.co.uk

Posted in Bite size learning, coaching, Goals, Leadership, motivation

Turn your event into a World Cup event…

Last Friday The Furniture Union hosted an event to present Natalie Miller the Co-Captain of Nets (indoor netball team) with her sponsorship cheque.  This August Natalie will compete in the Nets World Cup.

The team at the Furniture Union could have easily just laid on some drinks and stopped there.  However they wanted to replicate Natalie’s values and turn it into a World Cup event.

The values they followed:-

Determination

The Furniture Union were determined to launch their new website on the same night and their new brochure.  Anyone involved in website/brochure design will know the pitfalls and hurdles you have to overcome.  One of the team was still finalising the right images in the earlier hours of the day before.  The dedication to get it all right, paid off as the brochure and website present the products and services beautifully and take the business to a new level.  https://thefurnitureunion.com 

Team player

Each member of the team had a different role on the night.  Some organised the look of the Showroom (which was stunning) others created display boards.  Everyone was involved and felt connected to the goal.

Passion 

In order to sell a product or service you have to believe in it and be proud of it.  The team now connect with pride and passion due to their hard work of putting together a consistent message and approach of what they are selling.

Leaders

Natalie’s words embody what all the team aspired to be on that night.

“Be the best person you can be at anytime”

Ben who initiated the sponsorship, spoke about what it means to the team and how the values will be shared between The Furniture Union and Natalie.

Resilience

After an event there is often a low after working so hard to pull off something so fabulous.  The team now need to be resilient and remember it is not always a World Cup you need to be constantly in training for the next big event.  This can be relentless and you need to be resilient to keep something in reserve and recall all the skills you used on that amazing night.

Please do get in touch for a workshop on living your values bev@nuggetsoflearning.co.uk

 

Posted in Bite size learning, coaching, Emotional Intelligence, Goals, motivation

Get better systems…

Making small improvements on a daily basis will lead you to greater effectiveness and ultimately success.  Too often we convince ourselves that massive success requires massive action.

Making a choice that is 1% better or doing something that is 1% worse can make a significant difference over time.   The choices you make around your daily habits will be more transformative than a once in a lifetime change.

If you think about gains and losses in life and the impact they have, these questions that you battle through will define your future self.

  • Are you spending less than you earn each month?
  • Are you making it to the gym each week?
  • Are you reading books and learning something new each day?

The difference between a goal and system:-

If you are a musician, your goal might be to play a new piece.  Your system is how often you practice, how you break down and tackle difficult parts and your method for receiving feedback from your tutor.

Goals are good for setting a direction but systems give you the progress.  Problems arise when you spend too much time thinking about your goals and not enough time designing the systems.

Achieving a goal only changes your life for a moment, whereas systems are long term. You hear the classic line “Once I reach my goal, then I’ll be happy” you can’t attach happiness to the goal, you need the continuity of rituals and systems.

In summary getting 1% better everyday counts in the long run.  If you want better results then forget about setting goals, focus on your system instead.  You do not rise to the level of your goals, you fall to the level of your systems.

Please do get in touch for a workshop on designing systems bev@nuggetsoflearning.co.uk

Further reading – Atomic Habits by James Clear

Posted in Bite size learning, coaching, Learning, motivation, Relationships, training

More than just a helping hand…

I was delighted last week to meet Natalie Miller the Co Captain of the England indoor netball team otherwise known as Nets.

We met at Natalie’s place of work Seaford College where she is a sports coach.  The school are very supportive of her latest adventure.  Natalie will be travelling to the Nets World Cup in South Africa in August to represent England and she could not be more proud or excited.

Nets is a completely netted indoor netball court, so you literally zip in and zip out.  The enclosed area means that the ball is never out of play, so the game is very fast and relentless.  There are only three courts available in England, (Birmingham/Bristol/Derby), so Natalie trains in Birmingham.

When Natalie was selected for the team there was the initial jubilation and then the reality of the expense.  Fundraising alongside your training can be exhausting and mentally and physically draining.

Natalie reached out using LinkedIn and found several companies interested in sponsoring her journey.  The one that felt right was Ben Hanny at The Furniture Union.  The two don’t seem the most obvious link, however Natalie recognised in Ben the same passion to be successful.  Her overall feeling was that Ben and the company would be supportive.

The two are coming together on Friday for a presentation of the cheque for Natalie’s sponsorship.  The evening is going to reflect the shared values of both and will be a mutually beneficial journey together.

Passion

Natalie’s drive is to be the best person you can be

The Furniture Union is passionate about providing the best design solutions

Determination

Natalie found it really hard to find the sponsorship however the determination was built on the fact her success and effectiveness depended on it.

The Furniture Union are determined to support Natalie’s journey to the World Cup in the same way they do with their clients

Team player

There are 12 in the Nets team.   Natalie is the Co-Captain a shared responsibility due to the gruelling nature of the tournament.  The team are away for 2 weeks and training and playing everyday.  The two Captains compliment each other and support each other.

The Furniture Union operate as one team, although they have many different skills, so it is imperative that they work together to achieve the best design solution.

Leader 

Natalie leads by example, always works really hard and never gives up.  She has a really positive disposition and is a good motivator.

Bella & Ben the Leaders at The Furniture Union work hard and never give up on the right solution for a client and it is their job to motivate the team.

Sponsorship is so much more than just a helping hand, you need to connect the two entities and share values and working practices. There is so much to be learnt by both and we intend at nuggets to work with Natalie and the The Furniture Union to bring the shared learning together.