We create our own happiness by choosing the state that we go into, however how much are we aided by the chemicals in our brain. Science colliding with our emotional intelligence.
At a talk at our son’s school they explained how teenagers can steer their behaviour with bearing in mind the dosage they need to be happy. It is healthy for teenagers to hug and want companionship and yet social media does not give them that intimacy or immediate closeness. The wrong elements of the happiness can be exaggerated, the teenagers can become addicted to posting and the reaction of their friends.
Simon Sinek of TED talk fame and for the book “Start with Why”, explained when writing his book “Leaders Eat Last” the chemicals that makes us happy.
He used the mnemonic EDSO however at my son’s school last week they made it far more catchy – DOSE of happiness.
DOPAMINE – motivates us to achieve incremental goals. It is the greed element of the brain it makes us feel good when we tick things off the to-do list and it can become highly addictive.
OXYTOCIN – creates intimacy, trust and the feeling that some-one will protect you. Mothers and babies and lovers feel this when they are protected and loved, the feeling of safety.
SEROTONIN – provides the feeling of significance, pride, status. It drives us to seek the recognition of others. I want to do it so that my family are proud of me. It reinforces relationships within a group, it can give cohesion to a team.
ENDORPHINS – keeps us going during work outs or runs, it helps us endure difficulties. We have the same rush when we laugh.
If we were put them into a table:-
|Chemicals for Happiness||Key phrase||Example|
|DOPAMINE||One more||Setting and achieving milestones|
|OXYTOCIN||Intimacy and safety||One-on-ones with Manager|
|SEROTONIN||Loyalty||Making the team proud|
|ENDORPHINS||No pain||Late night working|
The right DOSE can steer you through an organisation and life. Check-in to see whether you are being exposed to the right amount in each area.
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