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Brand “you”

Knowing and understanding your own personal brand is all about asking yourself the right questions, uncovering what you are about.  What is underneath the packaging, who YOU really are.

There is a lot written about authenticity and being genuine.  A strong foundation that is based on truth will be the way to secure a true brand.

“The most exhausting thing in life, I have discovered, is being insincere.” – Anne Morrow Lindbergh author of “Gift from the Sea”

Being some-one you are not is hard work, think about Actors playing characters, often twice a day for a matinee and evening performance they are exhausted.  If you are not true to yourself you run the risk of eventually being found out, famously in the 1990s was a pop duo Milli Vanilli.  Their first album earned them a Grammy for Best New Artist.  It materialised the duo could not sing and had been lip synching to the music.  Their Grammy was revoked and no-one heard from them until sadly the tragic accidental death in 1998 of one of the pair.  This is an extreme example of not being who YOU really are.

The path to a true brand starts with key questions:-

7 questions – from the Personal Branding Guru – William Arruda

1. What do you do better than anyone else?
2. What are your top values?
3. What do people frequently give you praise for?
4. What is that people come to you for?
5. What adjectives do people use to describe you?
6. How do you do what you do?
7. What energises you?
This is the starting point to brand YOU.
Please do take a look at our website as to how you can work with nuggets on personal branding www.nuggetsoflearning.co.uk 
Posted in Emotional Intelligence, Goals, mindfulness, personal impact

Being truly aware of who you are…

We have our own unique style and we leave a memory of ourselves in others.

The greater our self awareness is the ability to see ourselves with our own eyes.  We therefore need to understand the following:-

  • Goals – what do want to achieve short and long term
  • Beliefs – about ourself and others
  • Values – the bedrock of who we are as a person and what drives our behaviour
  • Drivers – the amount of energy and motivation
  • Rules – the discipline and rituals that guide us
  • Self talk – your inner voice that tells you that you can or cannot do something

Pulling all of these together you create a unique personal style, which encompasses your skills. You are aware of the impact of your physical presence on others as you have the same view as they do.  You know your energy levels empower others and your non verbal behaviour is comfortable and reasuring.  This is an example of an emotional intelligent individual with good self awareness.

Please do look at our website as to how we would deliver self awareness as a 90 minute module www.nuggetsoflearning.co.uk 

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Windows of the soul…

Understanding what we show others and what they see when they look at us.

The model Johari’s window was created by Joseph Luft and Harry Ingham in 1955. The tool is a useful visual representation of a person’s character, and is represented with a four-quadrant grid.

The tool is very practical in knowing what you project and what you are happy to share. It is a development tool which is very useful for increasing an individuals self awareness. The windows demonstrate the memory they leave and the key question:- “What shadow do you cast?”

 

1. Public Arena

 

 3. Blind Spot

 

2. Private Arena

 

 4. Unknown/Secret Self

Window 1.

Public Arena – I know what you know about me, and you know what you know about me.

Some individuals have huge Public windows, they are happy to share everything, from their holiday plans to the interior of their homes.

Window 2.

Private Arena – I know things about myself that I am not willing to share.

Making your windows work for you will be about deciding how much you wish to share with colleagues.

Window 3.

Blindspots – Things you know about me and I don’t know about me

Often known as the bad breath spot, we need to find out more about ourselves by seeking feedback.

Window 4.

Unknown/Secret Self – Things I don’t know about myself and things you don’t know about me

This is the heroic window. We don’t know how we would cope with certain dramatic events as they have not happened. We also don’t know how far our skills will reach, if we don’t take risks. This window is exploratory, however it should not be ignored.

Map out your windows and see where you want to decrease or increase the size.

Please look at our website to see how nuggets can work with your company on practical management theory, making it relevant and applicable www.nuggetsoflearning.co.uk

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Developing emotional intelligence…

What we achieve is a marker of success, however how you conducted the business will stay in the memory a lot longer. Whether you gain repeat work is often decided on whether the interaction was pleasant. Retention of teams is down to how well a leader deploys their emotional intelligence and whether you want to continue working with them.

The good news is that we can work on your emotional intelligence and make it relevant and practical. If you use the five concepts from Daniel Goleman’s research:-

  • Self Awareness
  • Self Motivation
  • Self Management
  • Social Awareness
  • Relationship Management

1. Self Awareness – “What shadow do you cast?”

What memory do you leave in peoples minds, do you cast a really good impression of who you are. Is every interaction with you consistent and therefore when people meet who have met you in other separate situations they have the same view.

2. Self Motivation – “What gets you out of bed?”

The drive to push you forward comes from within, you don’t need a line manager, telling you the way. Clear goals and a future plan, always self directed.

3. Self Management – “When to react and when not to?”

Managing your hot buttons and being emotional when appropriate and being aware of slippage of inappropriate outbursts.
4. Social Awareness – “What signals are you picking up?”

Being emotionally astute you will know when some-one wants to talk and when they don’t. Getting really skilled at “reading the signals”. People often indicate they want to connect with you through their body language and not verbally, so you need to be aware of all the indicators.

5. Relationship Management – “What frequency are they on?”

Understanding some-one else takes a relationship to another level and this happens when you use empathy. Stephen Covey describes this as “Seek first to understand before being understood”.

We can measure our emotional intelligence by simply giving yourself a score out of 10 each week in each of the five areas.   You will know where to develop and breaking them down you can accept slippage and learn from it.

To demystify emotional intelligence attend a workshop with nuggets and take a look at our website for how we work with companies www.nuggetsoflearning.co.uk

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We are what we eat…?

Everything that we eat is what we are about, in terms of mind, body and spirit.  You can wrap it up by saying our overall well being is dictated by what we put in.

Whether it be food or  good thinking.

I was very lucky last Monday to attend a talk by Liz Earle MBE an advocate for well being.  The subject is far reaching, from labelling on food to how many hours we sleep and what is actually in sun cream.

Liz made sense and as an example of well being, looked amazing.

She was interviewed by a friend so the atmosphere was warm and comfortable.   Liz began by explaining her journey from journalist, to TV, creating the Skincare range and to her current work of writing and presenting on well being.

We make decisions on what we know and yet often we do not apply much thinking to what we are eating.  You could spend lots of time working out nutritional values however Liz made it very easy.  Think about what you are eating and what they have been eating, and then some things are just straightforward e.g. things from the ground.  If you know the route to your mouth and you are happy then you will enjoy your food.

Packaging to food is now very complex and often misleading.  Recently Waitrose ran a campaign on British Lamb it turned out the recipe was British however the lamb being sold was New Zealand.  We have to be take our own personal responsibility to look beyond the initial message.

Sleep is possibly a good starting point for well being and Liz shared the fact that 7.5 hours a night is the optimum.  Time before midnight is far more valuable than after.  So getting to bed earlier is more effective than staying in for that lie in the next morning. Banking sleep works in the short term.

As a nation we all need vitamin D and 20 minutes in the sun will possibly do us a world of good and the Liz Earle skincare range does not contain any SPF.  It is again about using the right tools for the right job.  If you want to protect yourself from the sun, use an expensive sun cream that does that job, don’t expect your normal skin care to do that for you.  This is true in business don’t expect your accountant to advise on your marketing.  Everything does the job you ask it to do.

Liz Earle has been incredibly successful in so many areas and one of her key messages was

“Be different – have a business that looks different”

Please visit our website for more details about our workshops and coaching www.nuggetsoflearning.co.uk

Please do contact bev@nuggetsoflearning.co.uk

Posted in Emotional Intelligence, Leadership, personal impact, Relationships

Exposure of you…

I am not talking a streak through the office, there are other ways to get yourself noticed.

Studies show that we need to fit into the environment we work in, so the more you do within that space the more your face will fit.

Harvey Coleman studied the reasons why people get promotion and how in general individuals can feel empowered.  The results were set into three categories:-

  • Performance
  • Image
  • Exposure

If you perform exceptionally well at your job, you cultivate a great image and you are known by all the right people you will be successful.

Exposure or visibility equated to 60% of the success factor to getting promotion, so what they know about you before has the greatest impact.

Image follows on 30% and performance brings up the rear at 10%.  Obviously if you got the promotion and could not do the job you would ultimately be caught out.

In the meantime how can we make exposure practical:-

  • Take on more responsibility within your role
  • Volunteer for internal projects
  • Get involved in community projects
  • Participate in company sponsored activities
  • Visibly demonstrate a team player attitude
  • Be willing to learn new skills and experience different situations
  • Attend social events organised by the office
  • Be a fire marshal/first aider
  • Put yourself forward as team representative

So before you take off any clothes, have a look at the list above and take a more practical step to working your exposure.  Ensure you remain true to who you are and your values and most importantly be authentic.

For a worksop on empowering yourself please contact bev@nuggetsoflearning.co.uk

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Evoke Transformation

Working as a coach you can get right to the end of the session before you get to that transformational moment.

When you start on a journey with a client you want to get to that point where you evoke transformation.  The client recognises a new way of seeing a situation their thinking changes and they can see a new response.

We get trapped in our daily rituals and don’t often have fresh eyes on changing our routine.  A coach challenges your thinking and gets you to change the status quo.

As a coach you must always trust that your client is naturally creative, resourceful and whole as a person.  They always have the answers you ask the questions to unlock their thoughts to evoke change.

The agenda belongs to the client and you follow as the trusted guide.  You are responsible in this role, and challenge only where appropriate.

The coach must ensure accountability around any change, you want to see progression so therefore actions must be held to account.

Acknowledging progress and championing the clients achievements is essential for motivation and relationship building.

The coach is responsible for articulating the thoughts of their client and constantly reflecting using their words where their journey is taking them.

As a client and a coach to evoke transformation is very uplifting.

Please do get in touch for 1:1 coaching bev@nuggetsoflearning.co.uk

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